Think back to when you were a child. Picture yourself playing with your favorite toy. Where you happy? Of course you were. Surrounded by your friends, you played war with GI Joes, dress up with Barbie, or had a teddy bear you took everywhere (mine was A.G. Bear and he talked. I still have him too).

You can do the same. Notice the problems that threaten to overwhelm you. Or what already overwhelms you, such as your workload or a transition. Or the non-supportive people you have to work with. Now search for firm ground or boulders to hang on to.

To be sure, our emotional state at any particular moment affects our actions, present and immediate future, in so many different ways, and I mentioned some of them in my recent post on defining emotional intelligence. Yet unfortunately, that’s often not the end of the story.

If you don’t have the right console, emulate! There are many personal computer emulators which let you play games for certain consoles which you wouldn’t be able to otherwise. Search the Web for your favorite titles and you should be able to come up with an adequate replica at an affordable price.

So the best way to deal with a defiant child is to undergo behavioral therapies. This will in time, solve your child’s problem and yours as well. It will generally focus on the child’s problematic thoughts/thinking or behaviors that may get rewarded (accidentally) within their environment.

Music can make us laugh, and it can make us cry. Music is a part of our soul. Music education is important to our growth. It helps our brains process information better. Students involved in music get higher grades in Math and other subjects. They do better on their SAT scores. It improves self-esteem and anger management for kids.

Open communication is the best way to approach a loved one with a suspected problem. You can do a lot to help them. First of all, their Internet access needs to be managed by someone they trust. This does not have to mean getting rid of the family computer or canceling the Internet connection.

So next time a birthday or a holiday comes up, why not get a toy you that does require batteries or software? Play Hungry Hungry Hippos or Barbies with them. The toys might not be the newest tem, but it will create something that you will both cherish forever: memories.